Marcia Singer: From OY to JOY; Turning Life’s Stressings Into Blessings

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I don’t think anyone can deny that life can be hard and challenging. In fact, it really is impossible to live without experiencing some kind of pain or suffering.

There are  the physical, emotional, mental struggles that we encounter in our various life changes. Some of us have grown up in dysfunctional  families, faced or witnessed, violence, abuse, neglect and felt unloved and uncared about. We struggle in our relationships and career paths and at different times in our lives we may have faced racism, classism, sexism, ageism, homophobia, xenophobic…you get the picture……

It is the nature of the human experience to bump against all kinds of hard knocks and challenges.  How we handle these bumps and challenges, the attitude we have towards them and perhaps, more importantly the attitude we have towards ourselves can make a huge impact on the outcome of the event, what happens to us, and who we become as a result of it.

My guest this week on KOWS’  Wise Woman Storytime,  Marcia Singer has faced more than her share of challenges throughout her life. A creative, intuitive and visionary woman, Marcia has sought answers and asked questions about the dark and light sides of living. From her inquiry, she has created a unique philosophy and framework that she lives by and offers to others through her writings, workshops, and teachings.  Today on Wise Woman Storytime Marcia tells her amazing story of how the deep trust in her inner wise woman, an openness to the  path of facing the shadow and a transformative philosophy for life has, as Marcia likes to say, “turns stressings into blessings” and  “Oy to Joy……

You can contact Marcia on lovearts.info.

Click the link below to listen to her story…..

By Roberta Teller

 

Fran Carbonaro: Beyond the Roots of Violence

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I suppose if you asked most people about their childhoods you would get a mix of the good, not so good and maybe even a bit of the ugly.  But what happens when the balance weighs more on the ugly? What happens when there are secrets unspoken and an innocent childhood is replaced with the contradiction of growing up too fast on the one hand and an arrested emotional and psychological development on the other?  What happens when that unspoken dark past takes its toll in isolation and disconnection and a shadow is cast over one’s ability to live fully, happily and in community with others?

Research shows that the risk factors of adults subjected to childhood abuse are quite high. Physical and mental distress, weakened immune systems, illness, broken relationships, anxiety, depression, and PTSD are but a few of the issues these adult children are likely to face.

But all is not bleak. The good news is that it is quite possible to live a full and constructive life and the possibility  to thrive in life and love and work is a totally reachable goal. Taking that very first step and making the important  connection between prior abuse and unhealthy adult behaviors is the beginning. Doing the requisite hard work to heal comes next.

Author, renowned speaker, and Research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work,Brene Brown said, “When we deny our stories, they define us.  When we own our stories, we get to write a brave new ending.” 

My guest this week on KOWS Wise Woman Storytime is Fran Carbonaro. Today, Fran no longer denies her stories from her childhood. She has been on a long journey to heal her childhood trauma  She has been owning her past, and her brave new ending includes her original poetry, music and songs. She is here to tell her deeply personal story……..and as I say on Wise Woman Storytime, change the world one story at a time.

Fran’s vocal studio web site is setyourvoicefree.com
You can email her at francarbonaro@att.net

By Roberta Teller