I suppose if you asked most people about their childhoods you would get a mix of the good, not so good and maybe even a bit of the ugly. But what happens when the balance weighs more on the ugly? What happens when there are secrets unspoken and an innocent childhood is replaced with the contradiction of growing up too fast on the one hand and an arrested emotional and psychological development on the other? What happens when that unspoken dark past takes its toll in isolation and disconnection and a shadow is cast over one’s ability to live fully, happily and in community with others?
Research shows that the risk factors of adults subjected to childhood abuse are quite high. Physical and mental distress, weakened immune systems, illness, broken relationships, anxiety, depression, and PTSD are but a few of the issues these adult children are likely to face.
But all is not bleak. The good news is that it is quite possible to live a full and constructive life and the possibility to thrive in life and love and work is a totally reachable goal. Taking that very first step and making the important connection between prior abuse and unhealthy adult behaviors is the beginning. Doing the requisite hard work to heal comes next.
Author, renowned speaker, and Research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work,Brene Brown said, “When we deny our stories, they define us. When we own our stories, we get to write a brave new ending.”
My guest this week on KOWS Wise Woman Storytime is Fran Carbonaro. Today, Fran no longer denies her stories from her childhood. She has been on a long journey to heal her childhood trauma She has been owning her past, and her brave new ending includes her original poetry, music and songs. She is here to tell her deeply personal story……..and as I say on Wise Woman Storytime, change the world one story at a time.
By Roberta Teller