Mary Carouba: Each One Teach One

My guest this past week on Wise woman Storytime , Mary Carouba, had some hard beginnings.  A troubled childhood took her on a path of numbing out, acting out and giving up on life. Bottomed out in her early 20’s, life seemed dismal and hopeless.  Mary didn’t know who she was, had no idea what life might have to offer and truly thought that she would not live a long life.

But life didn’t work out that way.  When Mary entered Delancey Street  her life and her outlook on life would forever be changed. It was there that Mary discovered who really she was – and it wasn’t that numbed out drug addict- but instead a woman with tremendous gifts, a loving and caring heart and someone who understood the power of reaching out and helping others, known in the community as “Each one teach one.”

Today, Mary lives by Delancy Street’s credo. She has infused this philosophy into every aspect of her many careers, her life and  world view.  Whether through her profession as a treatment program coordinator, social worker, consultant, stand-up comic or her speaking engagements, writings,  service and work, Mary is dedicated to helping others,  She is committed to helping others see the endless possibilities for their own lives and through her own example offers hope and possibility for all.

Mary Carouba walks the talk.  “Each one teach one”  is at the heart of who she is and how she lives. Listen to her inspiring story.  There are lessons here for all of us.

By Roberta Teller

 

The Gift of Song with the Threshold Choir: A Personal Story by Maria Culberson

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Maria Culbertson, my guest this week on Wise Woman Storytime is a woman who has worn many hats throughout her life with singing and performing taking center stage. However, while performing in every possible theatrical venue and receiving accolades for her work, Maria began to experience a lack of satisfaction from her work and as she says, “felt like the soul had gone out of my singing experience.”

Around this time, Maria joined The Threshold Choir -a group of a cappella singers whose mission is to sing for and with those at the thresholds of life. Her experience with the choir not only changed Maria’s relationship to music, it changed her life.

The magic and sacredness of her singing was restored. Her passion for music was revitalized  and 15 years later, her vision and purpose for her voice and song continues to deepen and flourish.

Listen to Maria’s  deeply personal story of being immersed in the music and sisterhood of this choir. Learn how being a loving presence with those on the threshold of life and death transformed, healed and opened her heart, forever connecting her to herself and others.

By Roberta Teller

 

Debby Meagher: Living With Joy

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Attaining happiness and the search for joy in our lives has become something of a cultural obsession or at least a dominant attitude requirement in certain circles.  Retreats, religious and spiritual practices, choosing country vs. city living, yoga and the quest for a guru are some avenues for seekers.

Step into any bookstore and you will be bombarded with every conceivable kind of book about bringing happiness and joy into your life. Amazon lists 22,368 titles on joy  and 18,465 book options for happiness.

Today you can listen to or read personal stories, scientific studies, newspaper and magazine articles all espousing ways to find nirvana.  There are books with daily affirmations, and TED Talks offering tools and avenues out of the misery into the light.  Neuroscience teaches us how we can re-wire our brains to cultivate positive emotions, inner peace and lasting happiness, 

Books have been written by scientists, researchers, journalists, Harvard professors,  psychologists and spiritual teachers. Even the Dalai Lama has a book on the topic.

And while it seems quite apparent that many people are searching for this eternal bliss, how often do you actually meet someone who finds it?   Are YOU that person? Are you a seeker?

You’ve probably figured out by now the focus of today’s show is about joy and happiness. My guest, as far as I know is not someone who has a book out  there on the subject nor has she written an article or done a TED talk…… yet she is an expert on this topic because she embodies joy in every aspect of her being………her words, attitudes and actions…….her generosity of spirit – her big heartedness, contentment, peace and love.

Want to really learn about joy?  Skip the bookstores, magazine articles, TED Talks and instead hang out with Debby Meagher for 5 minutes and you can experience first hand what joy looks, sounds and feels like.  When you look into her eyes, listen to her words and watch her, there can be no question that this woman’s inner light shines……and  showers  those around her with unconditional love………. and joy………

I invite you to listen to KOWS Wise Woman Storytime and meet Debby Meagher, probably the most authentically joyful person I have ever known……..

By Roberta Teller

 

Lynn Kwitt: Faith, Determination, Perseverance – Ingredients to Healing

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This week on KOWS Wise Woman Storytime, my guest was Lynn Kwitt.  Let me tell you a little about the story she told.

Imagine yourself a young child and think what would it look like and feel like to grow up unable to participate in childhood games and activities because the right side of your body just didn’t move the same way your left side did.

What would it be like for you,  bright and smart as you were, to not be able to clearly express yourself because it took you longer to articulate your thoughts and say your words?  And what would it be like to be called a “Retard” and to be constantly bullied as  your differences became the target of abusive and cruel behaviors and taunts?

And what would it be like to have this physical deficit and have absolutely no idea why you were so different and what caused it?

When my guest today, Lynn Kwitt was born with the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck 3 times, no one at the time had any idea of what this young baby had already suffered in utero.  It wasn’t until Lynn was 8 months old that a  rigidity set into her body ultimately limiting movement and sensation on her entire right side.  No one had answers or solutions. Her mother overprotected her; Lynn self-isolated and stayed to herself and as you can imagine this young child became extremely self conscious.

For many people an early beginning like this could lead to a complete shutdown and withdrawal from the world.  But not Lynn.   Instead of giving up, Lynn eventually sought answers  and ways to give new life to her body and spirit as she began a lifelong quest to understand her condition and to find healing and peace.  Along the way, she became her own healer and now offers hope and healing to others through the many healing modalities that changed her life.

I invite you to listen to Lynn’s story. 

And, if you would like to learn more about Lynn, make an appointment  or contact her, here is her information.

Business name: Wholistic Approaches

e-mail Lynn@solereading.com   website: solereading.com

e-mail Lynn@thejoyofessentialoils.com  website: thejoyofessentialoils.com

e-mail Lynn@wholisticapproaches.com

 Telephone; Bus. Line 707-570-0751

Cell phone 707-280-5449

 

By Roberta Teller

 

Marcia Singer: From OY to JOY; Turning Life’s Stressings Into Blessings

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I don’t think anyone can deny that life can be hard and challenging. In fact, it really is impossible to live without experiencing some kind of pain or suffering.

There are  the physical, emotional, mental struggles that we encounter in our various life changes. Some of us have grown up in dysfunctional  families, faced or witnessed, violence, abuse, neglect and felt unloved and uncared about. We struggle in our relationships and career paths and at different times in our lives we may have faced racism, classism, sexism, ageism, homophobia, xenophobic…you get the picture……

It is the nature of the human experience to bump against all kinds of hard knocks and challenges.  How we handle these bumps and challenges, the attitude we have towards them and perhaps, more importantly the attitude we have towards ourselves can make a huge impact on the outcome of the event, what happens to us, and who we become as a result of it.

My guest this week on KOWS’  Wise Woman Storytime,  Marcia Singer has faced more than her share of challenges throughout her life. A creative, intuitive and visionary woman, Marcia has sought answers and asked questions about the dark and light sides of living. From her inquiry, she has created a unique philosophy and framework that she lives by and offers to others through her writings, workshops, and teachings.  Today on Wise Woman Storytime Marcia tells her amazing story of how the deep trust in her inner wise woman, an openness to the  path of facing the shadow and a transformative philosophy for life has, as Marcia likes to say, “turns stressings into blessings” and  “Oy to Joy……

You can contact Marcia on lovearts.info.

Click the link below to listen to her story…..

By Roberta Teller

 

Fran Carbonaro: Beyond the Roots of Violence

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I suppose if you asked most people about their childhoods you would get a mix of the good, not so good and maybe even a bit of the ugly.  But what happens when the balance weighs more on the ugly? What happens when there are secrets unspoken and an innocent childhood is replaced with the contradiction of growing up too fast on the one hand and an arrested emotional and psychological development on the other?  What happens when that unspoken dark past takes its toll in isolation and disconnection and a shadow is cast over one’s ability to live fully, happily and in community with others?

Research shows that the risk factors of adults subjected to childhood abuse are quite high. Physical and mental distress, weakened immune systems, illness, broken relationships, anxiety, depression, and PTSD are but a few of the issues these adult children are likely to face.

But all is not bleak. The good news is that it is quite possible to live a full and constructive life and the possibility  to thrive in life and love and work is a totally reachable goal. Taking that very first step and making the important  connection between prior abuse and unhealthy adult behaviors is the beginning. Doing the requisite hard work to heal comes next.

Author, renowned speaker, and Research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work,Brene Brown said, “When we deny our stories, they define us.  When we own our stories, we get to write a brave new ending.” 

My guest this week on KOWS Wise Woman Storytime is Fran Carbonaro. Today, Fran no longer denies her stories from her childhood. She has been on a long journey to heal her childhood trauma  She has been owning her past, and her brave new ending includes her original poetry, music and songs. She is here to tell her deeply personal story……..and as I say on Wise Woman Storytime, change the world one story at a time.

Fran’s vocal studio web site is setyourvoicefree.com
You can email her at francarbonaro@att.net

By Roberta Teller

NINA AYIN: Bleed Through – More Than a Book -A Life Message

We all know that our life experiences shape the trajectory of how we live, work, play and perceive the world.  My guest this week, on KOWS Wise Woman Storytime  Nina Ayin tells a story from her early adult years that challenged the status quo of her thinking and forever changed her views of life, death and everything in between.  

Today’s story begins benignly when Nina shows up at the prearranged time to tutor a young boy. Yet the encounter with the older woman who obviously made the appointment and invites Nina into the home to wait for the arrival of the student, results in some strange and unsettling moments ultimately leading Nina on a life changing path to a new inner and outer world view. 

Nina Ayin has a 40+ year career as an illustrator, painter, sculptor, Reiki Master and author. Her first book, Artist as Healer, Stories of Transformation and Healing is a book of case histories of her healing work. Today we talk about her first novel Bleed Through – a fictionalized story of her beliefs about life and the interconnectedness of us all.

To listen to Nina’s story, click on the link below.

Nina shows her art and teaches painting at Artflare in Santa Rosa, CA located in Building 33, Studio/Gallery #106, 3840 Finley Avenue, Santa Rosa

Her next Dolls for the Soul Workshop is coming up in February, 2016.

To contact Nina by email, write to artflare@yahoo.com Attention Nina in the subject line.

 

By Roberta Teller

 

Lily Adams: Anti-War Vietnam Vet

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My guest this past week on Wise Woman Storytime was Lily Adams. Her story begins when she is a young nursing student in the late 1960‘s and agrees to join the Army Nurse Corp with the commitment that she will NEVER be assigned  to serve in Vietnam.  The Pentagon reneged on this agreement and in 1969 this anti-war woman was serving in a war zone.

This is a story about a dedicated nurse who cared deeply for her patients despite her ideological differences with the war machine. While a story that begins over 4 decades ago, this country’s ongoing relationship to war and the erratic quality of care for our vets makes this story relevant today.

Unlike other returning soldiers and wartime personnel in previous wars who were met with parades and joyful festivities celebrating them and their service, Lily was met with an apathetic society and a hostile attitude. Warned not to wear her uniform in public, paled to the attitudes of the Veterans Organizations who shunned and distanced themselves from these war weary men and women.

Unwilling to sit idly by, Lily was part of a cadre of veterans who founded Vietnam Veterans of America who; worked tirelessly to ensue that Vietnam Vets would get the direct services they needed to deal with effects of PTSD; sought out researchers to study the effects of Agent Orange; found ways to support women veterans; wanted answers to where our POW’s were and what happened to those missing in action.

Today, keenly interested in environmental issues and still dedicated to anti-war policies and actions, Lily told us about the Living Peace Wall that was installed in downtown Sebastopol on October 6th.  Located across from the town plaza, just west of the Rialto Cinemas the wall is dedicated to peace activists and those who have worked nonviolently for peace and justice. 

Like many of us of us who find the mainstream media not asking probing questions and lacking in-depth and comprehensive coverage, Lily seeks her news and current events from the alternative media.  Amy Goodman and Truthout are two of her favorite resources.  

The audio of the show is posted below. 

 By Roberta Teller

 

Happy Birthday, Wise Woman Storytime: Roberta Teller’s Story

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY, WISE WOMAN STORYTIME

A couple of weeks ago when my guest became ill, I decided to use the hour to tell my personal story of how I came to create Wise Woman Storytime.  It was actually perfect timing because September is the first anniversary of my radio show and I couldn’t think of a better way to celebrate this momentous occasion. 

My journey to radio host on KOWS.FM began as a deeply personal inquiry into the meaning of growing older. It brought me to a  confrontation with a culture that reveres the young and dismisses the old and got me to look at my own fears, anxieties and hopes for my third life stage. 

How my search for meaning as a self-described aging, saging crone took me on a circuitous meandering through ageism and sexism in a search for community, collaboration and camaraderie is my story today.

I invite you to listen to my story and learn how Wise Woman Storytime  evolved into the only show that I know of that puts the spotlight on older women, giving us all the voice and visibility we so deserve.

And by the way, Wise Woman Storytime shines the light on our elderwoman community, but is a show for men, women, young and old.

By Roberta Teller

 

 

 

 

Ronna Kabatznick: Reflections from a Tsunami Psychologist

For those of us who live in earthquake prone places, it’s been drilled into our heads what to do when we feel the first signs of the earth moving.  If you’re indoors, drop and cover, get under the nearest table or desk, cover your head and stay clear of exterior walls, glass and heavy furniture.  If you’re outside, stay clear of buildings, power lines or anything else that could fall on you.  And when it’s over, hopefully you have that earthquake kit to provide you with food, water, clothing and medical supplies to hold you over until the power comes back on, help is on the way, and order is restored.

But what happens if you’re not trained to know the early warning signs of an impending disaster?  What happens when there are no protocols, or procedures or plans in place to mitigate the potential for danger, destruction, injury and death?  And what happens when instead of taking cover, protecting yourself and your loved ones, the early warning signs are ignored, disaster strikes and there is no disaster plan in place to fall back on as chaos reigns?

What happens if you are called upon to be a companion and support to survivors seized by overwhelming loss amid complete chaos, massive deaths, destruction and unimaginable grief and despair?

And what happens to your psyche, and spirit?  How do you ultimately make sense of this to find your own inner peace, acceptance and trust in life?

My guest this week on KOWS, Wise Woman Storytime, is social psychologist and author of Who by Water: Reflections of a Tsunami Psybhologist (and other books), Ronna Kabatznick.  Listen to this most difficult and tragic story. Learn how through Ronna’s deeply held Jewish and Buddhist beliefs and practices, she was able to give selfless compassion and support to those in need and how she continues to emerge as a different woman with a renewed appreciation for living, a deep respect for the fragility of life and an appreciation and acceptance of the absolute impermanence of life.

There are lessons here for all of us.

By Roberta Teller